Please choose "a" or "b" in response to the following questions:
1. You are looking to lose a little weight and decide to join a weight-loss program. Which person would you rather have as your weight-loss mentor/leader/supporter?
a. Someone who can personally identify with your own weight management struggles and has walked much of the same walk you have.
b. Someone who wears a size "00" jeans, can eat whatever she wants without exercising and complains that she wishes she could learn how to gain weight as easily as you seem to do.
2. You are interviewing a nanny to provide full-time care for your child(ren). Who would you rather employ?
a. An experienced mother who has raised 3 children.
b. A high-school drop-out because she is both available to start immediately and incredibly affordable.
3. You and your partner are looking into adoption. You will learn more from:
a. Other couples who have already adopted.
b. Someone who saw the movie "Juno" and loved it so much that she ended up buying the DVD.
4. You prefer that your child's teacher tell you:
a. Only the good things that your child has done in class.
b. The good, the bad and the ugly.
4. Who do you consider to be more of an adoption expert?
a. A non-adopted person who has published a book on what it's like to be an adoptee.
b. An adoptee.
5. Your neighbor asks your son if he likes being adopted. Your son declines to engage. Your neighbor scolds your child by saying "Well, aren't you a selfish, ungrateful little brat." You:
a. Agree with your neighbor. At this age, your child is more than capable of articulating his feelings of gratitude about being adopted.
b. Defend your son and have some choice words with your neighbor.
6. Who would you rather hear speak about racism in the workplace?
a. Your CEO who happens to be a white male.
b. Your colleague who is a woman of color.
7. Who do you think your trans-racially adopted child would rather hear speak about racism in the school system?
a. His superintendent who happens to be a white male.
b. His classmates of color.
8. With whom do you think an adopted child of color is more likely to identify?
a. A non-adopted, white peer.
b. A fellow adoptee of color.
9. When your daughter becomes an adult, who would you like to see represent her voice and experiences?
a. People who think they know what's best for her.
b. Your daughter.
10. Adoptees voices are valuable, necessary and useful:
a. Only when they agree with the overall adoption messages that you think should be promoted.
*This quiz was inspired by the person who recently told me that adoptees are neither experts nor professionals in the field of adoption and that the real reason why white adoptive parents have the most power is because "Let's face it - their voices are the only ones that really matter."